Today some girls and I were at work discussing dating and sex. To summarize objectively, I'll simply say that I admitted to never having a boyfriend. They went on to tell me the ways to attract a man. I said I didn't want just any man, but someone I found intellectually stimulating, someone I could talk with about theology, literature, etc. Looks weren't that important to me. The girls claimed I needed to date some duds to get some practice in. Hmm...they also said that waiting until marriage to have sex could be a silly thing.
But, there is something important about waiting, not just because God says we should, which is reason enough, but because indulging in sex nonchalantly diminishes its importance. If or when that time comes for me, it will be ground breaking because it signals an important connection and involves a heavy level of commitment. I'm not too brash or conservative or naive admitting that.
What Smo wants in her "love story"
- God's blessing
- Comfort
- Physical purity
Now, I'm not impatient for this to happen, if it supposed to then it will, whenever I am ready. My question is now, are these unrealistic desires? I am known to lose perspective sometimes, so perhaps I'm doing that now.
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Smo!
ReplyDeleteI agree with your friends to a point...in that dating a few duds is worth the experience. You'll have an even more detailed idea about what you're looking for after the fact. You'll also get an idea about how men work....how to communicate and such. When you meet Mr. Right you'll need some skills. :-) And who knows? Maybe a "dud" is really a misunderstood prince charming who needs your intellect in order to be taken seriously.
About sex....that's a serious thing. Don't rush it. The repercussions of doing something you're really not comfortable with can be devastating...speaking from experience here. It's more than physical. You're heartstrings are a big part of it, and you don't need to be hurt if you can help it.
Love ya dear! See you tonight!
Tawny